Remember Steve Martin and Dan Akroyd doing the Wild and Crazy Guys skit on Saturday Night Live? They made us laugh because they were two wild and crazy guys who thought they were sexy studs, wearing their open-collared shirts and gold chains exposing lots and lots of chest hair, searching for the elusive American foxes.
There are other habits or affectations out there adopted by men and women that are meant to be sexy but in the reality of the 21st century are just not. So what am I talking about here?
Jewelry - When it comes to jewelry, less is more. Guys, please don’t wear a gold chain, a bracelet and lots of rings. You might think it’s sexy, but it’s not.
Cologne - Again, a little is sexy. Too much fragrance is a huge turnoff for anyone.
Car - Women do not find your pick up truck sexy, so don’t even think about picking up your date in your monster truck complete with gun rack.
Ordering - If you take your date to a restaurant, don’t order for her. This might have been gentlemanly several decades ago, now it just comes off as controlling.
Money - Don’t talk about how much money you make or your net value. You may think it’s sexy to tell your date how much you’re worth but it’s really just too much information.
Hair Product - You might think it’s sexy to slather gobs of goo on your hair, but really, it’s not. Women want to have the option of running their fingers through your hair and it can’t be done if your hair is starch stiff.
Clothing – You might think it’s sexy to wear tight jeans, but really most women are not interested in seeing an outline of your masculinity.
For the Ladies (Keep in mind that many of the tips above can apply to women as well.)
Jewelry – Don’t wear so much jewelry that you constantly have to adjust, check or rearrange your ensemble.
Perfume – Don’t wear so much perfume that your date is attempting to only exhale in your presence. You want to create a lasting impression but it shouldn’t be a cloud of fragrance.
Hair Product – See the tip for guys above. You might think it’s sexy to tease your hair into an Amy Winehouse beehive hairdo with plenty of hairspray, but it’s really not.
Makeup – You might think it’s sexy to wear a lot of makeup, but if you over do it you can just end up looking cheap. Make sure your makeup is up to date and not applied with a spatula.
So there you have it. There are ways to make yourself attractive and there are ways to really turn people off. Remember that subtle and natural will almost always turn heads.
