The holi days can be a joyful and special time for families to spend together, but they can also be a stressful time. Add in the factor of mixed beliefs within your family and the stress factor can go even higher. Parents may end up having disagreements about how their children should celebrate the holidays, or friction can grow between family members who share different spiritual beliefs. But if your family shares different beliefs and you're concerned about possible friction, there are ways to make the holidays a more peaceful time.
Plan Ahead
Discuss with your family, partner or spouse the options of an interfaith approach for the holidays. Share ideas and be ready to make compromises. By planning ahead and keeping the lines of communication open, you can cut down on possible tension and misunderstandings.
Be Respectful
Even if you plan ahead, compromises may not be able to be reached. For example, let's say you and your spouse are Wiccan and your Christian or Jewish parents or siblings aren't comfortable taking part in your Yule celebrations. Be respectful of their choices while at the same time letting them how much your own beliefs mean to you.
Understand that family members won't always agree on matters of faith and spiritual beliefs, but don't let it deteriorate into arguments. Respect these differences while at the same time drawing joy from your own beliefs.
Get Your Children Involved
If you and your spouse or partner have children, discuss with your children how you plan to celebrate the holidays and let them share some of their own ideas. However, don't let them make the decisions on how the holidays should be celebrated. They may end up being confused or worried that they'll offend one of you.
Create new Family Traditions
While the spiritual traditions of each person's belief are important, keep in mind that new traditions can always be made.. Build on the existing traditions of your own beliefs while at the same time being open to creating new ones.
Find a Common Ground
All spiritual beliefs and religions have certain elements of love, peace and harmony. Look for those elements in each other's beliefs and focus on these common aspects. Remember the holidays are a time for joy and celebration, so avoid being competitive with other family members about your beliefs.
Keep in mind that with patience, love and plenty of communication it can be possible to honor the varying spiritual traditions in your family and have a truly joyful holiday season.
